Be a Happier Parent
Why is there such a huge gap between what we think parenting is going to be like and what it actually is? Why when we have children do we think it’s going to bring us closer together but often it really pushes us apart? What are the jobs of mums and dads now? What’s a dad when we’re no longer just providers? What’s a mum when they often are? What am I supposed to teach or model for my children when I’ve no idea what the world is going to look like in five years time? Why did my parents seem to have loads of conviction about these things and I have absolutely none? In this podcast I interview top authors, therapists, coaches and try and find out how the trials of parenting can help us become better humans.
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Summary
In this conversation, Eve Rodsky discusses her book 'Fair Play' and the movement it has sparked, focusing on the division of labor in households and the impact on relationships and parenting. She shares personal anecdotes and insights on the challenges women face in balancing career and family, the importance of accountability in relationships, and the need for men to engage in household management. The discussion also touches on societal expectations, the decline in birth rates, and the concept of 'unicorn space'—the idea that individuals should pursue their passions outside of their roles as parents and partners.
Takeaways
Fair Play is a movement that changes the cultural conversation about household labor.Women often feel alone in their struggles to balance career and family.The decline in birth rates may be linked to awareness of household labor burdens.Men benefit from understanding the invisible labor women perform.Accountability in relationships fosters trust and reduces resentment.CPE (Conception, Planning, Execution) is crucial for effective household management.Fair Play encourages ownership of tasks to improve efficiency.Navigating societal expectations can help reduce guilt and shame.Unicorn space allows individuals to pursue personal interests and passions.Economic power dynamics are important in dual-income households.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Fair Play and Gender Division of Labor05:31 The Impact of Fair Play on Birth Rates09:29 Understanding the Fair Play System for Men10:06 ask men to do13:36 Invisible Labor and the CPE Framework17:24 The Importance of Accountability and Trust22:16 Unicorn Space: Finding Personal Fulfillment26:51 Mental Health and Emotional Well-being39:35 The Burden of Expectations in Parenting42:43 Understanding Guilt and Shame in Parenting46:18 The Economic Value of Staying in the Workforce49:46 Navigating Childcare and Work Decisions51:17 The Importance of Sharing Personal Stories with Kids55:05 Introduction to Fair Play Life
Keywords
Fair Play, parenting, gender equality, household management, relationships, accountability, birth rates, work-life balance, societal expectations, unicorn space